Monthly Archives: September 2014

Ethos and Relationships

Take the high road. It’s far less crowded.~ Charlie Munger

I’ve got a love-hate relationship with this quote. I love the message, but hate the fact that it’s true. The high road is less crowded, and that doesn’t speak well for the future of our society.7029815_s

I don’t want to get priggish or preachy about the disheartening dearth of ethics and morals, but when fifty percent of high school students surveyed don’t think cheating is wrong, we’ve got a problem. And ultimately we all suffer the consequences of the entitled, “short-cut” mentality (hello, financial crisis).

But this blog is about love and romance, so why am I discussing Charlie Munger and morality? Probably because I think the best—and most important—place to employ ethics is in one’s personal relationships.

Whether you are beginning a new relationship or invested in a years-old one, sticking to a code of behavior, a vow, or a promise will see you through a lot of bumps. Those things become an anchor that grounds you as well as a compass to guide you safely through difficulties and disappointments. They also help define who you are, which makes you more likely to choose compatible, like-minded friends and lovers.

If I had to describe my personal ethos in two or three words or traits, I’d choose honesty, objectivity, and fairness.  While my life’s not perfect, these seem to be working for me so far.

How about you?  What’s your ethos?



Birthday Giveaway!


Happy Birthday to me!  You know you are getting close to fifty when you decline jewelry gifts in favor of ergonomic office supplies.  Yeah, I did that!  And since I’m getting what I want for my birthday, I’ve decided to give something away,

I’ve got four great books (two hardcover) to giveaway to one lucky reader:

Anita Shreve’s “All He Ever Wanted”

Stephanie Evanovich’s “The Sweet Spot”

Kathy Reichs’s “Bones Never Lie”

Charles Martin’s “Unwritten”

I’ll keep the contest open until Friday at noon and notify the winner via email.  To enter, just leave a comment below answering this question:

How did you hear about the last great book you read?


Love of Learning

When we hear the word love, we first think of relationships.  I suppose that makes sense, because the desire to love and be loved is as instinctive as the desire for food and air.  But your life can be filled with other kinds of love, too.  A love of art or music, for example.  And for many, a love of learning plays an important role in their well-being and happiness.

I’m one of them–of those who are energized by learning.  I’m not just talking about the formal education I received while pursuing my law and M.B.A. degrees, either.  I love to learn about people, places, and events (large and small).  I love to engage with others, preferably in an intimate setting, and debate six sides of the same argument.  And I love to learn more about the craft of writing from writers who are ahead of me on the learning curve.1912220_608544732590373_2952381615024029599_n

I’m eagerly anticipating a master class workshop being hosted by my Connecticut Romance Writers of America chapter this weekend, featuring best-selling author Cherry Adair.  I’m sure I’ll be inspired, personally and professionally, by the end of the weekend.  I’m also excited to contribute to the fundraising effort this year by putting together a basket of goodies for the silent auction.  I’m thinking I’ll giveaway one of these on my blog when my book releases, too.

I hope you have plans for your weekend that will invigorate you and enrich your life.  Anyone care to share?



Music, Romance, and Books

I’m currently immersing myself in developing the hero and heroine of a new story I’m about to start writing. They are first introduced as supporting characters in a manuscript I’m just finishing, so some of their core traits are already established. Still, it’s fun to begin to build a world around each of them. Who was their best friend in high school? What is their favorite food or color? What was their biggest childhood embarrassment? The better I know and write them, the more multidimensional they’ll come across to the reader.

I draw from a lot of sources to create realistic characters, including personal experience, movies, photographs, and music. Always music. Since this story is set in the Rocky Mountains (probably my favorite spot in our country), I’ve got a lot of great material to play with during the research phase.

My new heroine, Kelsey Callihan, is a hopeless romantic who has a hard time accepting defeat when it comes to matters of the heart. I’m thinking this lovely tune by The Civil Wars is a perfect fit for her. And since I love to share music with others, I’m linking this Youtube video (credited to Lilian de V.) so you can listen, too.

If you’ve never heard of The Civil Wars but appreciate great harmony, you should check out their music.  You might recognize Kingdom Come from the movie The Hunger Games. I also love the song Poison & Wine.

Care to share any music with me? I’m open to every genre except heavy metal and really hard/punk rock.